Sometimes we just need to be reminded of our roles as fathers and leaders in this world. The suggestions below aren’t meant to take you on a guilt trip or make you feel inadequate but rather I hope they will spur you on to being intentional this Christmas season. Be intentional with your family, roommates, co-workers, and friends.
A DAD NEEDS …
1 … a plan for the holidays to ensure his family is loved and memories are made. Dad, what’s your plan?
3 … to carve out time for sacred events and experiences to build family traditions that are fun and point to Jesus. Dad, is you calendar ready for December?
4 … to not let the stress of the holidays, including money, cause him to be grumpy with Mom or the kids. Dad, how’s your joy?
5 … to make memories and not just give gifts. Dad, what special memories can you make this holiday season?
6 … to manage the extended family and friends during the holidays. Dad, who or what do you need to say “no” to?
7 … to schedule a big Christmas date with his daughter(s). Dad, what’s your big plan for the fancy Daddy-daughter date?
8 … to schedule guy time with his son(s). Dad, what are you and your son(s) going to do that is active, outdoors, and fun?
9 … to help get the house decorated. Dad, are you really a big help to Mom with getting things ready?
11 … to snuggle up and watch fun shows with the kids. Dad, is the DVR set to record old classics and holiday shows?
12 … to connect with Mom during the holidays. Dad, do you have some fun date nights or getaways planned for you and your wife?
13 … to help Mom get the kids’ rooms decorated. Dad, do they get lights or a small tree in their room?
14 … to read about Jesus with and pray over his kids. Dad, how’s your pastoral work going with each of your kids?
15 … to repent of being lazy, selfish, grumpy, or just dumping the holidays on Mom. Dad, are you a servant like Jesus to your family?
18 … to not let technology eat away family time during Christmas break. Dad, will you make sure the electronics are turned off so your family can interact, play games, talk, etc.?
19 … to take the lead in family devotions centered on the birth of Jesus. Dad, have you picked out parts of the Bible to read together over dinner during the holidays?
20 … to take the family on a drive to see Christmas lights while listening to music and sipping cider. Dad, is it mapped out?
21 … to study the incarnation of Jesus Christ to help prepare him and his family for the holidays. Dad, do you have some reading lined up?
22 … a break during the holidays. Dad, it’s not a sin to watch some football, nap, or relax a bit so long as you’ve taken care of your other priorities first.